Many of us only consider the ways we speak with our [external] relationships, whether that be with our romantic partner, children, or coworkers. Language is a powerful tool for building connections and establishing positive outcomes.
While language used within those relationships is incredibly important, it’s often easy to lose sight of another vital influence: how you speak to yourself.
Understanding Yourself
When was the last time that you thought about the relationship you have with yourself?
It’s easy to overlook the ways that we treat and think about ourselves – after all, external relationships are much more visible and tangible. However, by investing in understanding yourself and truly reflecting on your inner dialogue, you can realize tremendous growth and personal healing.
Your Internal Dialogue
We all have an inner dialogue. Your inner dialogue can manifest itself in multiple ways, some positive yet often quite negative. The easiest way to become aware of it is by listening to your thoughts. Consider this – are your thoughts like a good roommate or one you would ask to move out?
Many people don’t take the time to intentionally notice their inner dialogue. Because of this, their thoughts can easily be like a broken record – playing the same old recording over and over.
This can cause you to shift into a negative place and make it difficult to find a way out. And since scientific research has concluded that our thoughts manifest future events in our lives, this can cause some unhappy circumstances, whether we meant to create them or not.
If your inner dialogue is constantly going over what a failure you are and how awful you are at your job, your performance is most likely going to be impacted. We live in a society that profits off our distrust and dislike for ourselves. From the beauty industry to fad diets and workout trends, so many industries are seeking to turn your inner dialogue towards everything you don’t like about yourself.
But… did you know that your inner dialogue can be one of the most powerful tools you have?
By harnessing your inner conversation, you can learn to shape it and utilize it in ways that serve you – instead of harm you. When it comes to identifying potentially negative patterns, all. you have to do is listen to the words circling round in your head.
If you want to discover more about the inner dialogue that stops you from what you want to be or do or manifest in your life, consider asking yourself these questions:
- What am I saying to myself about my ability to have a great life?
- What is my automatic response when I make a mistake?
- What was did I hear about myself when I was young that wasn’t supportive or kind?
- What negative conversations are in my mind that I now believe are true?
Your Inner Child
No matter how old you get, your inner child will always exist. For many people, their inner child functions as a part of their subconscious. Just because you aren’t consciously aware of the ways that your inner child is manifesting your life choices every day, doesn’t mean that it doesn’t exist.
Formed during your early years, your inner child beliefs become the way you see yourself – whether they are true or not is inconsequential. For example, if you grew up being told nothing you did was ever good enough, your inner child may still hold that belief through adulthood. For anyone who has these beliefs, more than likely they are going to have a hard time with self- esteem and trust issues, so even when they have doing their very best it’s just not enough.
Formational Language and Your Inner Child
Your personal dialogue can be directly related to your inner child. In fact, many of the difficult moments you experienced in childhood have become the unconscious inner dialogue that could be holding you back today.
Again, we often carry our beliefs about ourselves into adulthood, regardless of whether or not they’re still applicable. For example, if someone’s inner child believes that they’re overweight, they may never feel comfortable in their body, regardless of how much weight they lose or what their body looks like.
Healing Your Inner Child
For many people, the traumas that built inner child foundational beliefs was caused by intergenerational traumas and negative beliefs passed down to them. Inheriting this cycle of genetic pain without ever realizing it can play a central role in how an individual feels about themselves through adulthood.
Your inner child isn’t a bad thing. In fact, it can help you examine patterns in your life that are no longer serving you and guide you on a wonderful healing journey. By being intentional and searching to understand the ways that both your internal dialogue and inner child are impacting your current life, you can find new avenues for healing and empowerment in your life.
Some wonderful inner child work that will immediately improve your internal dialogue, is the Confidence & Self-Esteem Program in the SOS Method App. You can experience in the Free trial why so many people love this holistic method’s way of healing. Rapidly and naturally the mind is rewired to gain confidence and manage that inner dialogue to become one that supports the life you think will always just be a dream.